How to Ask Your Partner to Swing

Hold it right there! Clearly, you’re here because you want to convince your partner to swing with you. But before you get the scoop, you need to ask yourself a couple of things. And don’t just scroll down the page, ‘kay? This is important! This is a guide on how to ask your partner to swing the right way!

First – obviously – why do you want to swing? Really dig deep into your subconscious mind for this one. The answer should go further than just sex with other people. If your answer is along the lines of you wanting to cheat on your partner (minus the repercussions of course), leave this page right now and seriously reevaluate your relationship. If however, you want an adventure – a new experience that could turn up the heat between you and your partner – there’s still hope for you!

Secondly, be honest. Do you have a healthy and trusting relationship with your partner? If you do, then swinging could work for you. Swinging allows you to live out your fantasies and experience new, exotic pleasures in a safe and accepting environment. It’s exhilarating to swing with your partner by your side because it speaks to our inherent sexual nature. We humans are naturally sexual creatures which is why strict monogamy often leads to frustration and dissatisfaction. Swinging is a means to releasing this frustration – for those that can handle and understand the lifestyle. See, the key to understanding the lifestyle is realizing that sex and love are not one and the same. They can exist with or without each other. You and your partner can love each other and still play with others as long as you both truly believe this.

However, if your relationship needs work, swinging is not the solution for you. If you view swinging as a way to have sex with others minus the repercussions of cheating on your partner, good luck being welcomed into the lifestyle. Swingers don’t swing to cheat on their partners. On the contrary, swingers LOVE their partners and want them to experience pleasure freely. This means not confining your partner to experience sexual pleasure with only yourself. In this way, swinging can be the ultimate expression of selfless love.

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So let’s review. Before you even approach your partner with your suggestion, you need to make sure you have a genuine explanation for your desire to swing. You must also be certain that your relationship is strong enough to handle swinging. Swinging is not for the faint of heart nor the jealous.

Now you’re ready to ask your partner to swing with you! Explain yourself thoroughly and make it crystal clear that you only want to swing as a couple. If your partner has concerns or is apprehensive, be receptive and understanding. Try to address his or her concerns but do NOT get defensive or pushy. Just because you are sexually open doesn’t mean your partner has to or ever will be that liberated.

If your partner still isn’t convinced, you have a couple of options. One is to wait passively. Let them think it over alone and don’t rush them to make a decision. Swinging is a HUGE step to take in a relationship! Being pushy may just push your partner into the wrong direction and could potentially ruin your relationship. This is a situation in which you must decide what is more important to you: your sexual freedom or your relationship with your partner.

The other option is to quietly convince them to swing with gradual, small changes. For example, if you and your partner have never watched porn together… watch porn together! Watching others fuck, together, will help your partner open up sexually. Use sex toys on each other! Have spontaneous sex on your kitchen counter! Try a threesome before a swing! In general, just try to be more open with each other sexually.

Not everyone can handle swinging. It takes a special kind of trust and openness to embrace the lifestyle. Your partner may not be ready yet but give them time. Be supportive of their decision, even if it’s not the one you want. You never know, they could always change their mind!

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